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　　建立一个新的成�q�模�?span lang="EN-US">

　　Creating a New Model of Manhood

　　�q�是本书最短的一章，�q�不是说它相对不那么重要�Q�而是因�ؓ它涉及到一些尚未显露出来的问题―�?/span>一�U�新的男性模�?span lang="EN-US">(a new model of masculinity)。我们能够鼓励�ƈ支持男孩子们努力地去���砺hone自己的情�l�智力，用心来生�z�，但是�Q�除非那�U?span lang="EN-US">�?/span>男�h是什�?span lang="EN-US">�?/span>的观念发生了改变�Q�否则，他们不可能完全做到这一炏V��即使今天，在电(sh��)视上或者其它地�Ҏ(gu��)���Ҏ(gu��)��的男人的特征�Q�也不过是个看橄榄球比赛的情�l�白�?span lang="EN-US">emotional idiot。就在昨晚的�?sh��)视�?span lang="EN-US">,�q�有一个家伙在处于崩溃中时对一个朋友说�Q?span lang="EN-US">�?/span>我想我感��C��什么，好像是情�l?span lang="EN-US">(�Ȁ�?span lang="EN-US">?)�Q�你曾有�q�这�U�感觉么?�?p>

　　This is the shortest chapter of the book, not because it is less important, but because it deals with something that is yet to emerge—a new model of masculinity. We can encourage and support boys in their efforts to hone their emotional intelligence and live connected to their hearts, but they can’t do that fully unless the very notion of what a man is changes. Even today, the hallmark of manhood touted on TV and elsewhere is a football-watching emotional idiot. Just last night on TV, there was a guy in the midst of breakup saying to a friend, “I think I feel something, like emotions. Have you ever felt emotions?�?p>

　　作�ؓ父母和相关的照看�?span lang="EN-US">(监护�?span lang="EN-US">?caregivers)�Q�我们是�q�次不��^常的转化的促�q�者。但是最�l�，��h��的新的概念�q�将在男孩子们的成长与发育过�E�中的思想与心中��Q现。对于成�q�男性的新的概念的创建的最大责��d��于他们去探烦�Q�去�l�历�Q�去���试�Q��ƈ且去�_����。而我们所能做的就是去敞开�q�个讨论�Q�支持他们的努力�Q��ƈ在其周围创造一个强有力的支持系�l�来增固情��A表达的益处和加深人际间的关系�?span lang="EN-US">

　　As parents and concerned caregivers, we are the midwives of this extraordinary transformation. But ultimately the new definition of manhood will emerge from the minds and hearts of our sons as they grow and develop. The largest responsibility for the creation of a new definition of manhood is theirs to discover, to experience, to experiment with, and to refine. What we can do is open the discussion, support them in their efforts, and create a strong support system around them that reinforces the benefits of emotional expression and deep interpersonal connection.

　　谈谈成年��h��的复合信息

　　Talk about the Mixed Messages of Manhood

　　回过头来看看�Q�在我成长过�E�中�Q�我意识刎ͼ�我大部分的儿童期都在极力地想知道的最主要的问题是�Q?span lang="EN-US">�?/span>成�ؓ一个男人的���切含义是什�?span lang="EN-US">?�?/span>我从未真正地清楚地回�{�过�q�个问题�Q�也���实未曾问过别�h。而只是一直在试图获得我随旉���地可以得到的提示�?span lang="EN-US">

　　“Looking back at when I was growing up, I realize that the main question that I struggled with for most of my childhood was, ‘What exactly does it mean to be a man?�?I never actually articulated that question and I certainly never asked anyone. I just kept trying to pick up clues wherever I could find them.�?p>

　　以上是一�D�|��关与我们是如此盲目的引文�Q�以至于���我们的男孩子们一直在努力�q�寻的核心问题甚至不是谈论的主题作�ؓ一�U�文化。清楚的是，我们对于一个好男�h的定义处在一场�؜�׃��困惑的过渡期。旧有的模型�Q�从�w�着盔甲的骑士到�U�翰�?/span>韦恩�Q�仍然留存着一些吸引力�Q�但很明显是单方面的�Q��ƈ且已不再适用。这�U�新的模型出��C��一部叫�?span lang="EN-US">�?/span>敏感��C���?span lang="EN-US">�?“Sensitive New Age Guy�?/span>的情景喜剧，它提供了一个�ؕ�p�糟的，充满着不��的，不成熟的另类成年��h��角艌Ӏ?span lang="EN-US">

　　It’s a mark of how blinded we are as a culture that the core question our sons have to struggle with is not even a topic of conversation. What is clear is that our definition of a good man is in a tumultuous and confusing transition. The old models, from knights in shining armor to John Wayne, still hold some attraction but are clearly one-dimensional and inadequate. The new models that appear out of the “Sensitive New Age Guy�?sitcom portrayal of fumbling manhood offer half-baked alternatives riddled with their own inadequacies.

　　因此�Q�我们如何帮助男孩子们处理这些重担呢?他们又怎么可能知道在没有�h愿意承认问题所在的地方�Q�他们需要向什么方向发展呢?

　　So how do we help our sons deal with this heavy burden? How can they possibly know what direction they need to head if no one is willing to admit the question is out there?

　　藉由谈论�q�个问题。让���_��光明与充���的理由投射到这一不光彩的令�h惶恐的问题上吧。我们还不能得到�{�案;我们�q�不能清楚明���地说出一个男人如何能在没有暴力、愤怒、和敏感下变得强�?span lang="EN-US">;在失去自我关注时而富有同情心;在不自我奉献时变得慷慨。我们也许还不能有一�q�我们所希望的零散片�D�|��合在一��h��的清晰画面，但是�Q�我不能惛_��另外的一个更合适的可持�l�谈论的话题了�?span lang="EN-US">

　　By talking about it. By shining the bright light of reason on this murky and frightening issue. We may not have the answers yet; we may not be able to articulate exactly how a man should be strong without violence and anger, sensitive and compassionate without losing self-focus, generous without giving himself away. We may not have a clear picture of how we want the pieces to fit together, but is there is a better topic of ongoing conversation, I can’t think of it.

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　　父母�Q�让你的男孩知道他是一��Z����d��的，重新定义男�h应该是什么样子的�q�程中的重要一部分。�ƈ且，�l�常邀请他�U�极参与到对�q�个概念应是什么的探讨中来�?span lang="EN-US">

　　Parents: Let your son know that he is an important part of an extraordinary process—the redefinition of what it is to be a man—and regularly invite his active participation in exploring what that definition should be.

　　教师�Q�这是一个课堂作业的大论题。我们处在历史文化�{变的�q�雾中。�ؓ什么要�{�着历史学家��d����从今天以后的若�q�年�Q�然后告诉我们，我们的所�?span lang="EN-US">?邀��h��有你的成长中的社会理论家们去深入�q�创��Z��们自��q��一个男人所应有的画面把�?span lang="EN-US">

　　Teachers: This is a great topic for classwork. We are in the midst of an historic cultural transition. Why leave it to historians to look back years from now and tell us what we did? Invite all your budding social theorists to dive in and creat their own pictures of what a man should be.

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　　用新思想来读历史

　　Read History through New Eyes

　　我最���好的记忆之一���是和父亲读同样的书�Q��ƈ且一赯���论它们。像以往一��P��很偶然的�Q�他告诉我《历史与未来之王》是他最喜欢的书之一�Q�于是，我们军_��一起去��d���?span lang="EN-US">

　　“One of my favorite memories was reading the same books as my father and talking about them. It was a tradition we accidentally started when he told me that The Once and Future King was one of his favorite books, so we both, decided to read it.�?p>

　　我们是历史的产物�Q�我们是如何�ȝ��解自�׃��为男人和女�h的要比我们所愿意承认的更实际一些。性别角色已经被一代代地承传了下来。当环境促��它们的改变时�Q�但角色分离仍在持箋着�Q�一般，�q�种角色�Ҏ(gu��)��于非常实际且实用的历史分工，而且�Q�后来只会变得更加根��p��固�?span lang="EN-US">

　　We are a product of our history, and that is more true in how we perceive our roles as men and women than we might care to admit. Gender roles have been handed down for generation after generation. Often these roles were rooted in very practical and useful historical divisions of labor and only became constricting later, when the circumstances that gave rise to them changed but the role separations continued.

　　��L��索历�Ԍ���q�去弄清哪些有意义和不再有意义的原因的最有意思的�Ҏ(gu��)��之一���是�Q�及时地和你的孩子一赯���溯�ƈ探讨�q�个性别角色的世界，在故事中向他们解释其他的对事物有不同划分的文化�?span lang="EN-US">

　　One of the most enjoyable ways to explore this history and unravel the reasons that made sense and the reasons that no longer make sense is to go back in time with your children and explore the world of gender roles. Expose them to stories of other cultures in which things were divided up differently.

　　赋予孩子们以��h���z�察力的天赋�Q�及富于惌���力的质疑。用历史��L��开他们的思想�Q�去了解现在与将来应是什么样子的�?span lang="EN-US">

　　Give your children the gift of perspective and the challenge of imagination. Use history to open their minds to what the present is and the